Control Fallacies are kinds of [[Distorted thinking]]. There are two ways we can distort our sense of power and control. If we feel externally controlled, we see ourselves as helpless, a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has we responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around us. Feeling externally controlled keeps us stuck. We don't believe we can really affect the basic shape of our life, let alone make any difference in the world. The truth of the matter is that we are constantly making decisions, and that every decision affects our lives. On the other hand, the fallacy of internal control leaves us exhausted as we attempt to fill the needs of everyone around us, and feel responsible in doing so (and guilty when we cannot).