These rules for having successful conversation were originally written by Anatol Rapoport with the goal of having a more successful debate. In Rapoport’s version he uses words to describe the person he's speaking that frame them antagonistically such as "target" and "oponent." I believe these rules can help improve **all** conversations and are incredible tools in helping us understand each other. Here's my rewording of Rapoport's Rules: 1. ==You should attempt to re-express the other person's position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that they say, “Thanks, I wish I’d thought of putting it that way.”== - This to me is the most important step, because in order to do it right you have to practice [[Deep listening]] with the other person - When I'm able to do this well, I see people who have their defenses up in one way or another take them down. They feel seen. 2. You should list any points of agreement (especially if they are not matters of general or widespread agreement). 3. You should mention anything you have learned from the other person. 4. After the previous steps, then you can start to share your [[Experiential feedback]] with the other person. Try to share with the framing of adding context they don't yet have to the conversation.