- Armor that can be rewarded at work - Cynicism - Perfectionism - Needing to be the knower and be right instead of the learner and get it right. See [[Fixed mindset]] - ==There can be no bravery without vulnerability== - Vulnerability minus boundaries is not vulnerability - need to question our intentions when sharing - Authentic vulnerability might mean saying “I have some stuff going on right now (not saying many details), here’s what support looks like for me” - Part of this is making sure people around you feel safe to open up and share, even though sometimes I might not - We all need different things during a hard time and that’s important to bake into your culture - Not talking at all about something that’s going on for me creates eggshells for others - it becomes off-limits - New kind of meeting: a "rumble" - You're expecting a lot of different points of view, a lot of priorities - You need to come with your own PoV and a lot of curiosity - Expect to listen more than you speak - Your #1 job as a CEO is to normalize discomfort. Interview for discomfort and train for it - We think giving language to hard things like grief or shame gives them power, but it actually gives us power - Naming emotions lets us externalize them and lets us control the story we tell about them #podcast #worklifewithadamgrant